We Cebuanos Know Who We Are Not And This Could Be Our Fix

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1. Have you felt the need to prop up or do a total makeover on your partner early on in your relationship rather than admit that he/she wasn't right for you and end it? ( e.g. telling your guy to keep the man bun)

2. Have you ever tried to talk yourself into loving someone you weren't particularly fond of because you needed the love NOW?

3.Others stay, despite feeling dissatisfied, harboring secret thoughts of leaving, cultivating emotional affairs, or cheating from time to time, having no clue about the real problem.

4. The causes of love addiction are fairly easy to identify - inadequate or inconsistent nurturing, low self esteem, absence of positive role models for committed relationships and indoctrination with cultural images of perfectromantic love and happily ever after endings.

5.Your new "friend" will be your next lover and it will turn out the same way the last one did.

6. Just saying you will go slowly doesn't work when hormones kick in and infatuation starts making the decisions. Infatuated love is blind.

7. How do you break the love addiction pattern?

1. STOP what you are doing and stand back to observe your own behavior. Take an inventory of your dysfunctional pattern in your current and past relationships. Write it down. Be honest without blaming anyone else for your choices. Unless you are in a committed relationship, do not engage in any potentially romantic interactions for at least 6 months. That includes no texting, emailing, online dating sites, hook ups, introductions by well intentioned friends and family.

8.Sex addiction is a compulsive pattern of pursuing sexual arousal independent of emotional attachments.

9.Love addiction however, is a compulsive, chronic craving and/or pursuit of romantic love in an effort to get our sense of security and worth from another person.

10.The negative consequences can be severe and yet the love addict continues to hang on to the belief that true love will fix everything.